My Life Doesn't Work

I never get to do what I want to do. I can't please anyone. I don't know what I want to do. There is never any time for me. My needs and desires are always left out. I'm only doing this to please them. I am just a doormat. Nobody cares about what I want to do. I have no talent. I can't do anything right. All I do is procrastinate. Nothing ever works for me, and so on. Plus what ever else you have created for yourself. All these I have heard and more.

Whenever I ask a new client what is going on in his / her life, I usually get one of the above answers. Or, maybe several of these answers. They really think they know the problem. But, I know these complaints are outer effects of inner thought patterns. Beneath the inner thought patterns is a deeper, more fundamental pattern that is the basis of all the outer effects.

I listen to the words they use as I ask some basic questions:

• What is happening in your life?

• How is your health?

• What do you do for a living?

• Do you like your work?

• How are your finances?

• How is your love life?

• How did the last relationship end?

• Tell me about your childhood, briefly.

I watch the body postures and the facial movements. But mostly, I really listen to the words they say. Thoughts and words create our future experiences. As I listen to them talk, I can readily understand why they have these particular problems. The words we speak are indicative of our inner thoughts. Sometimes, the words they use do not match the experiences they describe. Then I know that they are either not in touch with what is really going on or they are lying to me. Either one is a starting point and gives us a basis from which to begin.If this sounds like you, Click Here!

I continue to explain that no matter what their problem seems to be, there is only one thing I ever work on with anyone, and this is Loving the Self! Love is the miracle cure. Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives.

I am not talking about vanity or arrogance or being stuck - up, for that is not love. It is only fear. I am talking about having a great respect for ourselves and a gratitude for the miracle of our bodies and our minds.

“Love” to me is appreciation to such a degree that it fills my heart to bursting and overflows. Love can go in any direction. I can feel love for :

• The very process of life itself.

• The joy of being alive.

• The beauty I see.

• Another person.

• Knowledge.

• The process of the mind.

• Our bodies and the way they work.

• Animals, birds, fish.

• Vegetation in all its forms.

• The Universe and the way it works.

What can "YOU" add to this list?